| The Road
Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck
Although M. Scott
Peck has produced more recent works (A Different Drum and
People of the Lie), The Road Less Travelled is his
seminal one. For those of you with spiritual convictions, you will
find his views challenging and rewarding.
Coming from a psychotherapeutic
tradition, Dr. Peck is adept at discussing and suggesting methods
of confronting blocks (the grungies) that emerge when actualizing
what we say we are committed to. One can look to problems of life
as a series of burdens or a series of challenges. For him the only
real value emerges in the latter perspective: that is, living from
a stand of responsibility. This stand evokes committed action, hard
work, effective communication, acceptance of risks, patience, self-esteem
and a willingness to stand alone. This less traveled road, above
all, requires a discipline and a set of tools for confronting the
difficulties in life.
Peck's discussion
of love is illuminating. He distinguishes responsible love from
various illusions and fallacies like 'it is only a feeling', 'we
fall into it' and 'there's only one right person in the world for
us.' Or 'separate identities are not permitted,' we become dependent,
and so on. By defining love as the will to extend oneself for the
purpose of nurturing one's own or another's transformation, it is
clear that love is not wishful thinking, but action that entails
open and honest communication, attention, work, and risk-taking.
Two kinds of potential
problems emerge with all "self-help" books. One deals
with hazards of the reader and the other with the ontological stance
of the work. In the first case, as with any "self-help"
work, it is easy to overread one's life into its context, falling
prey to the right/wrong game and using the work as a checklist of
one's assets or defects. For example, "I do this, therefore
I'm right, but I don't do that, so therefore I am wrong." Or
"What he is saying must be right and since I am failing in
some categories, I must be wrong or a bad person." In the second
case, most psychological works see life as a series of psychological
problems which are to be solved psychologically. Psychology tends
to be self-focused or inward-looking. The proper resolution of life
is ontological, i.e., how one chooses to stand and take action in
the world and how one actualizes one's commitments as a mode-of-being.
Ontological resolution is outward-looking and self-transcending.
Insofar as Dr. Peck
stresses the value of choice and action and the need for self-transcendence
in one's commitments, he avoids these common psychological traps.
Thus, given the readability of the material and the importance of
its message, the book is well worth reading for anyone committed
to personal development.
Review by Thomas J. Froehlich, Ph.D.
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